tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558887247819531152.post2322503247710178763..comments2023-08-01T04:42:09.895-07:00Comments on Fundamentals and Fripperies: He's Leaving the NestErin S.http://www.blogger.com/profile/04133001054953045509noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558887247819531152.post-20514008939118215242013-08-07T22:02:32.700-07:002013-08-07T22:02:32.700-07:00What a handsome missionary you have there. Well d...What a handsome missionary you have there. Well done! Such an eloquent post about the bittersweet feelings these transitions cause. My mom was pretty unemotional about the first couple of boys she sent out until she realized you don't get the same kid back. In your case, I can't even imagine what that means. He may be translated. Heee.Brynnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558887247819531152.post-89586140132863898882013-08-06T21:34:11.585-07:002013-08-06T21:34:11.585-07:00Thanks so much for your sweet comment, Katrina! I...Thanks so much for your sweet comment, Katrina! It is true that transitions get easier with subsequent children. By the time Lucy leaves, all I will do is yawn :). Not likely. But I'm sure it will be easier. It has helped me to really let myself feel the full weight of my sadness about this--otherwise I would likely find it coming out in crazy and ill-timed ways later. Ah, mental health. So complicated. I really am starting to feel more accepting and okay about everything. He's going to be fine.Erin S.http://fundamentalsandfripperies.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558887247819531152.post-53254162614135032462013-08-04T11:40:24.753-07:002013-08-04T11:40:24.753-07:00Beautiful Erin. Simply beautiful and so true.
I ...Beautiful Erin. Simply beautiful and so true. <br /><br />I surprised myself by sobbing my head off the night before my oldest headed off to Kindergarten, but it was much easier with her little brother. It's so wonderful to see them grow and be independent, and yet hard to "lose" them too. I good friend, with older kiddos, told me that I would miss my kids at different ages (when I was pregnant with Madeline), and she was so right. But every year there is something else that is different about them and amazing in a new way.Katrina W.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558887247819531152.post-85501737621457838102013-07-29T14:37:54.911-07:002013-07-29T14:37:54.911-07:00Erin, that is really true. When I think of all th...Erin, that is really true. When I think of all the mistakes I've made with Brendan, it is amazing he is still a) alive and b) as functional as he is. It's a testament to the fact that kids come with their own personalities and many of their talents pre-wired. We can just try to not mess them up too much.Erin S.http://fundamentalsandfripperies.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558887247819531152.post-85376128204070899332013-07-29T14:30:05.081-07:002013-07-29T14:30:05.081-07:00Emily, writing this made ME cry a lot. I'm ju...Emily, writing this made ME cry a lot. I'm just passing along the joy :). Sorry. It is completely consuming and overwhelming to be a parent. I've wondered if there is any way to protect myself again the difficulty of saying goodbye, and it seems like the only way to do that is to love less. Not a very good option. So here I am. Hopefully I'll learn all sorts of great tips that I can pass along so that your transitions will be a piece of cake.Erin S.http://fundamentalsandfripperies.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558887247819531152.post-15966006663444392572013-07-29T10:26:26.185-07:002013-07-29T10:26:26.185-07:00This kind of made me cry. A lot. In my short time ...This kind of made me cry. A lot. In my short time being a mother, I have learned there are many complex emotions involved, and emotions that run deeper than I thought they would. I'm glad I still have many years before my little boy leaves the nest, but that leaves a lot of room for all these emotions to run ever deeper. :) Good job on raising such a great kid.Emily Hawkennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558887247819531152.post-59149302122088087692013-07-29T07:32:41.711-07:002013-07-29T07:32:41.711-07:00I think you feel a special gratitude for an oldest...I think you feel a special gratitude for an oldest child because they have known you at your worst and tried to help you with your hardest goal (mothering a lot of souls at one time). They are part of your survival and success and they have forgiven and forgotten your craziness.Erin Robison Geenoreply@blogger.com